Infertility

Shhh, We Don’t Talk About Infertility

I didn’t put infertility in the title of my blog.  No, I’m not in denial (although that popular defensive mechanism has settled in me at times).  Instead, I want to present the positive aspects of infertility while also acknowledging the not-so-positive, not-so-talked about topics.
So why aren’t we talking about it, ladies?  I have had quiet conversations with many women struggling with infertility, both behind closed doors and in close friendships.   I had a slightly different experience this weekend.  I ran into an old acquaintance at a wedding and during a brief conversation of catching up on the past 18 years, she shared with me that she is having trouble getting pregnant.  In a speedy, small talk exchange?  I was pleasantly surprised by her open, matter-of-fact approach to sharing this painful subject.  I felt instantly comfortable sharing my own experience with infertility.  What was missing from this exchange was any trace of shame, embarrassment or non-verbal secret sharing. What a breath of fresh air.

1 thought on “Shhh, We Don’t Talk About Infertility”

  1. Hi, Jana!
    Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and knowledge to support people struggling with something so meaningful and close to the heart.
    Your spirit of kindness and honesty are, also, a breath of fresh air!
    I’m looking forward to more of your wisdom and I’ll be sending people to your blog as well…Brava!
    Heather Carlile

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