Adoption Isn’t Always Rosy

cartoonadoptedfamilyYesterday, a conversation with a friend reminded me of our early days as a new adoptive family. Our daughter was 16 months old when we brought her home from China. She was NOT a happy girl. She would wake up screaming in the middle of the night, push us away, hit and even scratch us. I’ve never publicly talked about this because I didn’t want anyone to judge her. But, who would judge a baby? That was MY ego. I was afraid of being judged and even though I knew my daughter was terrified, her lashing out was so hard. I cried many tears and worried for our future. A wonderful therapist reframed it for me at the time. She said, “I’m glad she’s fighting! She’s got spirit and is strong.” The therapist was right. She is strong, and confident and she is also sweet, funny and generous. She has won several character awards including student of the year at her school! Yes, she still has anxiety that we work through almost every day. Adoption isn’t always rosy; it’s so much more than that. It’s transforming.


Fear can’t exist in a calm mind.

3305CEBA-192A-4121-904F-C7C65AD7DF02 Thankfully, fear and relaxation don’t exist simultaneously in our minds. The best way to reduce anxiety and fear in your life is to stop the activity, breathe and clear your mind. K.D. Lang created an app to make meditation easier for newbies. This is a simple app that you can do before bed or during a break. Put your headphones in at your desk and take a 10 min time out. The 5-15 min you spend relaxing results in HUGE psychological and physical benefits.

Try it and and see how your life changes!