Jana Rupnow talks to the woman behind @satricaldonorconception, a lesbian and donor conceived adult. We discussed one of her posts that caused a stir in the LGBTQ community and talk about some of the complex issues about family building using purchased donor gametes. She confronts the idea of a two parent household as being “revolutionary” and challenges new ways of looking at family building to within her community, especially to consider the needs of donor conceived people, like herself.
Kiara shares her experienced being raised by a single mom and what it was like being told about her story from the beginning. She found her donor as an adult and has a relationship with siblings conceived using the same donor. She is open and willing to share her story with others. Connect with her on social media: @kiararaeschuh
*I use the terminology the dc person wishes to use.
Emma, New Zealand native, embodies her bio father’s motto “Curiosity, Perseverance and Happiness” as she shares her story of being donor conceived and the reason for her advocacy work.
Will I feel like my child’s real parent? Nongenetic parents commonly report to me that they are worried they will not feel like the legitimate parent. They fear their child will feel as if they aren’t the “real mom” or “real dad” and will reject them as a parent for being genetically different. They also fear that the donor will have more importance in the child’s life than they are prepared to face and that they may even have to share the child’s affection with the donor.
Parents, especially nongenetic intended parents, have concerns that lacking a genetic connection to their child will affect their relationship and worry that they will not feel a bond with their child. Many couples choose anonymous donation to avoid or delay feelings of parental
Dan provides a male perspective of being donor conceived and experiencing infertility, touching on toxic masculinity that perpetuates reproductive secrets. Dan shares how being different felt like it was bad in his family and how his late discovery of his biological father helped him understand his truth.
The vote is tomorrow‼️ Can you help spread the word in the DC (parents, DCPs and donors)community to email Washington senators to pass bill 5348? Here’s a list of Emails:
Chair: Manka Dhingra (D, District 45) – firstname.lastname@example.org
Vice Chair: Yasmin Trudeau (D, District 27) – email@example.com
Ranking Member: Mike Padden (R, District 4) – firstname.lastname@example.org
Assistant Ranking Member: Jim McCune (R, District 2) – email@example.com
Jamie Pedersen (D, District 43) – firstname.lastname@example.org
Jesse Salomon (D, District 32) – email@example.com
Jim Honeyford (R, District 15) – firstname.lastname@example.org
Keith Wagoner (R, District 39, Republican Whip) – email@example.com
Patty Kuderer (D, District 48) – firstname.lastname@example.org
Uprooted offers a personal view of the consequences of secrecy in the practice of donor conception. A prominent CEO, Peter Boni, uncovers a family secret that both validates and disrupts his life. Combing his extensive research of the early practice of donor insemination with his own genetic discoveries, Boni reveals the questions, uncertainties and confusion he faced, as well as the exhilaration of connecting with genetic kin.
Boni provides a detailed history of the practice of donor conception, walking us through the social, legal and religious climate that encouraged secrets in reproductive technology and stunted the advancement of our social narratives.
Secrets are no match for personal determination and the universal need for self-discovery, no matter what age. Boni doesn’t stop his search until his deceased parents’ secret comes to light.